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Question By : adnan afsar

 Assalamu alaikum
Mufti sb i want to know that can you describe about sexual relationship with wife..means what the things are allowed in islam and what not..i need fully description..if u cant describe then send me the name of such book..


Reply By : (Mufti) Jaseemuddin Qasmi
Designation : Coordinator, Online Darul Ifta 

In the name of Allah the most gracious the most merciful
One can make physical relation with his wife in vagina in any posture he likes. Likewise, he can see and touch her uncovered body. What is forbidden is that one cannot have intercourse while she is having menstrual period and cannot have anal sex with wife ever. If you have confusion in any aspect of sexual relation with wife, don¡¯t hesitate to ask again.
The explanation is as follows:
The Qur'an emphasizes the spiritual objectives of marriage, making them the foundations of marital life. These objectives are realized in the peace of mind which comes through wholesome sexual experience with the spouse whom one loves, in the enlargement of the circle of love and affection between the two families united through marriage, and in the nurturing of affection and tenderness among the children under the loving care of their parents. These are the objectives mentioned by Allah Ta'ala:
And among His signs is that He created for you mates from among yourselves, that you may dwell with them in tranquility, and He has put love and mercy between you. Indeed, in this are signs for those who reflect. (30:21)
Concerning the sensual relationship, The Glorious Quran says: ¡°Your wives are a tillage to you, so go in to your tillage as you will, and send (ahead something) for your souls; and fear Allah and know that you will (one day) meet Him, and give glad tidings to the Believers.¡± (2:223)

The reason of the revelation of this ayah is that: the Jews had unnecessarily restricted the postures of sexual intercourse without any divine authority. The Ansar (of Madinah) being their friends, followed their practice and used to say, 'If a man has intercourse with his wife through the vagina while he is on her back, the child will have a squint.' Thus the verse, 'So go in to your tillage as you will' was revealed; that is, it is immaterial whether the husband is on top of his wife or on her back as long as intercourse is through the vagina, which constitutes the tillage. This is so because these matters have nothing to do with religious or social policy but are entirely a matter of personal taste. Such sayings were among the absurdities of the Jews and Allah Ta'ala abolished them. (Hujjat Allah al-Baligah, vol. 2, p. 134.)

It is not a function of religion to define the postures of sexual intercourse. However, a Muslim who fears Allah in his relationship with his wife and possesses the certainty that he will meet Him avoids the anus because the Prophet (saws) said, "Do not approach women from the anus." (Reported by Ahmad, al-Tirmidhi, al-Nisai, and Ibn Majah.)
A woman of the Ansar asked him concerning vaginal intercourse from the back; he then recited to her,¡¯ Your wives are a tilth to you, so go in to your tilth as you will,' but with only one receptacle. (Reported by Ahmad.)

Some Muslims asked the Prophet (saws) about what is permitted and what is forbidden in relation to menstruating women. The following verse was then revealed:

¡°And they ask thee about menstruation. Say: It is a hurt, so refrain from women during their menstruation and do not approach them until they are cleansed. And when they have cleansed themselves you may go in to them in the manner ordained by Allah; indeed, Allah loves those who turn to Him and He loves those who are clean.¡± (2:222)
Some people understood the phrase, "Refrain from women," as meaning that they should not live together in the same house during the menstrual periods. The Prophet (saws) then explained the correct meaning of this verse, saying, ¡®I ordered you only to refrain from having intercourse with menstruating women and did not tell you to send them out of the house as the foreigners do.
When the Jews of Madinah heard this they said, "This man does not like to leave any part of what we do unchanged, but does the opposite." ('Tafsir of al-Razi, vol. 6, p. 66.)

Thus the Muslim can fondle and enjoy his menstruating wife, avoiding only the place of hurt. The Islamic position in this regard is, as always, a middle one, between the one extreme of expelling the menstruating woman from the house and the other extreme of having intercourse with her.
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